January 19, 2008
No words
My father passed away this morning. I trust that there will be much for me to say after the haze lifts and the tears abate, likely more than I'll be able to capture here. When I say I loved this man more than words, I didn't really think I could mean it literally.

I wish you had been lucky enough to know him too.


120 Comments:

Blogger whoorl said...

Oh, Kris. I am so incredibly sorry.

Blogger WildbillthePirate said...

Kris,

I miss my dad too! It's been 10 years but every so often I will think of some of the things he told me, or some situation will come up & I just know what he would say. Grief, for me has mostly been replaced with fond rememberance.

I will remember both our fathers in my prayers tonight.

Remember that your father, like mine wants nothing but the best for you and to carry on as he did.

Blogger wharman said...

Oh God. I'm so sorry.

Blogger Beth said...

Oh Kris, I'm very sorry. You are in my thoughts.

Blogger Nic said...

I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss.

Blogger HKW said...

I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your father. My thoughts are with you and family.

Blogger Dave said...

My thoughts with you and your family too. Just a random reader who knows that sometimes feeling some good vibes helps.. just a touch.

Blogger Jen said...

i'm not sure it helps to know that a stranger who lurks has you in their thoughts, but i will say it anyway.

i'm very sorry for your loss.

Blogger AP said...

Kris, I'm really, really sorry.

Blogger gorillabuns said...

i wish i could come up with something witty but i can't.

i'm so sorry.

Blogger Alison said...

My condolences. I lost my mom when I was 22.

The circumstances are certainly different, but the pain of losing a parent too young is the same.

Blogger sween said...

Oh god, Kris. I'm so sorry.

Blogger Alli said...

I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts & prayer are with you & your family.

Blogger Mme.Meow said...

Nothing left to be said. Death leaves a gaping hole whose edges only time can make smoother.

I wish serenity for you, and closeness with those you love so you can bear the pain a little more.

Blogger Melina said...

Kris, I'm very sorry for you. I lost my dad the day after I graduated from college in a motorcycle accident. Nothing prepares you for this, I hope you and your family will be OK. It'll be 8 years this May and I still miss my dad every day but telling stories about him, even dumb little things helps. Write about him as much as you can. If I could hug you, I would.

Blogger SJ said...

I am so heartbroken by reading this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry.

Blogger ETK said...

Kris, I'm very sorry.

Blogger KB said...

Honey, I'm so sorry.

Oh Kris, I'm so sorry. That's terrible.

Blogger Heather said...

No words can bring comfort to you. Nothing but time will help. I'm so sorry.

So sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your dad with your readers via your colorful and touching posts.

Blogger The Hotfessional said...

{{{hugs}}}

Blogger the gazelle said...

I am so sorry - I know you loved him very much. I wish peace & healing for you and your family.

Blogger Kristabella said...

I am so sorry for your loss. It is clear from your posts how much you loved him.

Hang in there. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way.

Blogger Keith said...

I'm really sorry for your loss. I look forward to reading some of the great stories about your Dad. Be well.

Blogger Christine said...

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. I just recently found your blog and this is my first time commenting. I wish I could have come out of lurkdom under different circumstances. I'm sending cyberhugs your way.

Blogger Wilma said...

I am so sorry for the loss of someone so important to you.

May your memories of him always include gratitude that he was a part of your life.

Blogger Alexandra said...

I am so sorry for your loss.
I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Blogger Lady Brett Ashley said...

I know it's not enough, but I'm sorry. You were so very lucky to have had that love.

Blogger Jorge said...

We will talk soon.

Hugs from the 3.

Blogger Zandria said...

I can't even imagine what you must be going through.

Blogger Amyella said...

As you say: Thinking of you, bean.

I'm sorry.

Blogger Me said...

So sorry to hear of your loss...:(

Blogger Neil said...

I'm sorry. Sending prayers to you and your family.

Blogger Tracy Kaply said...

Sweetie,

My dad died on December 26th. I know exactly how you feel. I am so sorry and my prayers are with you and your family.

Blogger tallglassofvino said...

Sorry to read the bad news. It must be odd to share such private news over such a public venue, but know that we send you thoughts of sympathy and strength, in whatever ratio you need them.

Blogger mrs. j said...

I am so very sorry for your loss, Kris. We are all thinking of you and sending you our love.

Hugs

Blogger Chris said...

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.

Blogger Amanda said...

Kris - I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Blogger Mamma said...

Through your words we know what an incredible guy he was. I also know the apple didn't fall far from the tree.

My hugs both virtual and real are here for you, my friend. It's never easy to lose someone you loved so much.

Be gentle with yourself in these coming weeks.

love you!!

Blogger Mia said...

Oh shit. Nothing much I can say when you lose a piece of your heart.

::hug::

Blogger punky said...

My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Blogger Lola Goetz said...

oh sweetie, i'm so sorry. you're in my thoughts and prayers. love ya.

becky

Blogger Sizzle said...

it's never, ever easy to lose a loved one. not even when you can see it coming. almost worse then. i remember those feelings as if it wasn't 16 years ago that my dad passed away.

you are in my thoughts. sending much love.

Blogger BethGo said...

Mamma sent me over. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Blogger KlevaBich said...

Ah Kris, I'm so very sorry. Words are so inadequate at times like this. There's nothing else to say, except I'm thinking about you.

I've been there and it sucks, no two ways about it.

Blogger Thumper said...

Oh man...I am so, so sorry...

Blogger Kitten said...

I am very sorry to hear about your father's passing. I lost my mother in October and not a day goes by that I don't miss her. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am an avid reader of your blog and your post about your father made it seem as though the two of you had a very close relationship. Please accept my deepest sympathies.

Blogger Valerie said...

You're in my thoughts, Kris. I'm so sorry.

Blogger Jessica said...

I am so very sorry Kris. If you need anything we're here for you. I lost my mother when I was 24, and it is a terrible thing. It does get better over the years, but you will always remember and miss him. One day at a time, ok honey?

Blogger Mrs. Chicky said...

Kris, I'm so very sorry. I lost my mom almost four years ago and the pain... There are no words for it.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

Blogger Lori said...

I am so sorry for your loss. My father passed away when I was 17 and that was over 20 years ago now. It's hard to believe he has been gone longer now than I even had him in my life. My thoughts are with you in this time.

Blogger Paperback Writer said...

I'm sorry. I'm so so sorry.

Blogger Chantel said...

I'm sorry - my heart and thoughts are with you. I understand the haze and will continue to think about you as you navigate through this over the next few months. I've enjoyed your family stories even though they are sometimes crazy and dysfunctional but such is life eh?

Blogger Lori said...

I already posted but then I stumpled across this that I wrote when my dad died. Maybe it will have some meaning for you too.

http://loripoetry.blogspot.com/2004/08/and-daddy-we-love-you.html

My deepest sympthathies to you and yours.

Blogger EDW said...

Oh my God, baby, I'm so sorry.

Blogger Susie said...

Oh, I'm so sorry :(

We're all thinking of you...hope you're doing OK.

Blogger Washington Cube said...

I lost my own father just over a year ago. Mom a few years before that. Losing a parent is...well...there are no words and yes, it does leave a rent in the fabric that can't be repaired. The finality of it all. My thoughts are with you. I know you mourn.

Blogger Alicia said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry, I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling. I'm sending you my thoughts and support.

I'm sorry for your loss. It reminds me that I want to visit my father in California in ten weeks, and how I take for granted that I will have that time to plan a trip at my convenience. It sounds like you were very lucky to have such a great parent. You were blessed to have such good memories.

Blogger Alissa said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Blogger Ripe for Reading said...

Kris, I am SO sorry. Let us know if you need anything.

Blogger Kelly said...

I'm so very sorry.
Take care.

Blogger Wicked H said...

Sending all my love, hugs and prayers for you and your family.

Blogger Whiskeymarie said...

It's so very hard to lose a parent.
I'll be thinking about you, sweets.
So. Sorry.

Blogger canape said...

I read it from Mamma last night and have been thinking about you ever since.

I love the story about how he fell asleep eating Oreos. He sounds like that charming kind of daddy - the kind that all your friends love, and you have to share a little bit of even though you probably wanted him all to yourself.

I'm so sorry, Kris.

Blogger Amber said...

Sweetie...I am so sorry to hear that. I also have no words that could possibly comfort you right now, but know you're in my thoughts...xoxo

Blogger Tilly said...

I am so, so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending strength and peace.

Blogger Nettie said...

My deepest sympathies to you in your loss.

Blogger sandra said...

I'm so sorry to hear that; all the best to you and your family and friends.

Blogger morpho aurora said...

my deepest sympathies.
i lost my husband 3 years ago. it helped just a little every time someone hugged me and just said "I'm sorry you're hurting. You are in my thoughts."
so, from a passing stranger,
here's a hug

My thoughts are with you, I am very sorry for your loss.

Blogger A Unique Alias said...

My deepest condolences for a loss I can't begin to imagine.

Blogger Spirophita said...

So sorry to hear. I wish you and your family the best in this difficult time.

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Blogger Jenny said...

This is where google reader on my phone fails me, because I can't reply from there. So I couldn't immediately respond to this, and say I'm so sorry. You didn't need this, did you? Nobody does. May you find grace in these days of bewilderment, in this week of grieving and anger, in this time of remembering, somehow.

Blogger Rachel said...

I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Blogger TexInTheCity said...

Kris, my dad passed away two years ago this month. Like you I loved my dad more than I could ever verbalized.

Know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am sorry for your loss,
Leslie

Blogger jessabean said...

You're right; there are no words.

Only that I'm sorry, and you're in my thoughts.

~Jess

Blogger k said...

kris, i'm sorry. i know (oh god, i know), and i'm sorry.

Many thoughts for you and your family.

Blogger Cellar mouse said...

I am so sorry. I have no idea of what you are going through and what I imagine is your enormous pain but know you are in my thoughts. So, so sorry!

Blogger Mary said...

Delurking to send you a simple wish of peace & strength. Take care.

Blogger mrsatroxi said...

Kris, I'm so very sorry.

Blogger MereCat said...

Oh sweet girl. I am so, so, so sorry. My heart is just breaking for you. Remember that you have so many people who love you and are wishing they could take away your pain.

Blogger WanderingGirl said...

Oh dear god, there is nothing to say to make it better. Our father's are supposed to be strong and invincible and live forever. My heart aches for you. Please remember that where a good soul has passed there is light in its wake. You were lucky to have him, and he you. The rest of us are lucky to have some of the light he left. Peace.

Blogger Della said...

I am so sorry.

Blogger Spinning Girl said...

Hi Kris,
I just stopped by after a long long absence to see what you are up to. I'm so sorry to hear this news, and I can only send thoughts of comfort and condolence your way. I hope that you find yourself surrounded by loving support at this time.
SG

Blogger Karen said...

I am so sorry. You are 100% right. There are no words.

Blogger SHA said...

I am very sorry for your loss, Kris.

Blogger tingb said...

You're right, there are no words. So sorry.

Blogger tarsi210 said...

I'm very sorry to hear that. I wish peace and calmness for you and your family so you can properly mourn and celebrate his life. I hope that, in time, his life will shine brighter than his death and it will make you smile on a regular basis.

Blogger wearingthepants said...

Deeply sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Blogger Michele said...

I am so very sorry. In the short time I have been reading, I have loved the times you have shared stuff about your Dad. I think I emailed your post about him eating an oreo and you thinking he wasn't breathing to everyone on my personal email list.
Godspeed.

Blogger Freewheel said...

Hope you find some comfort in your memories of him. So sorry.

Blogger Keith said...

My condolences for your loss. At least he is free of any pain now.

Blogger Diane Mandy said...

I'm so so sorry.

Blogger Alyssa said...

I am de-lurking to tell you how sorry I am. There is a big community of people out here whose hearts are hurting for you.

Take care of yourself.

Blogger Maliavale said...

Oh, Kris. I am so very sorry. I'm sure he was a very special and incredible man. Sending you hugs.

Blogger Genevieve said...

I am so sorry too. Please take care.

Blogger Candace said...

I'm so sorry, Kris. I hope you find comfort in your memories of him.

Blogger Wendy said...

Hi Kris:

I'm so sorry. I lost my Dad almost exactly 2 years ago. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending virtual hugs.

Wendy

Blogger Frankly, Scarlett said...

You and your family are in my prayers. I'm so sorry, doll.

Blogger Marriage-101 said...

Oh goodness. I'm so sorry Kris. Prayers to you and your family.

Blogger Rachel said...

I am so very sorry to hear that.

I haven't been reading long but send good thoughts and will keep you in my prayers.

Blogger Susan said...

I'm so sorry, Kris.

Blogger Valerie said...

That's a shame. I'm really sorry. I'm sure he was a wonderful man and I know it sucks to lose him.

Blogger Lisa said...

I am late getting the news. I'm so very sorry and so sad for you and your family.

Blogger Blue said...

Also late tuning in...very very sorry, Kris.

Blogger ramblin' girl said...

I'm so very, very sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Blogger Gunfighter said...

I'm sorry about your dad, Kris.

If I can help, I am only as far as your keyboard... until then, henag in there.

Blogger Skyzi said...

Sending love your way.

Blogger A Margarita said...

I'm sorry for your loss. To lose a parent must be a terrible thing.

Blogger Weighting Game said...

Your readers love you and are thinking of you...xoxo

I'm really sorry. I wish I had better words.

Blogger missbhavens said...

Oh, oh, oh, Kris. I'm so very, very, very sorry. Losing a parent is both inevitable and devastating. It can seem so unreal and so unthinkable.

God, I'm sorry.

Hugs. Warmth. Hugs.

Blogger abbersnail said...

You and yours are in my thoughts. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Blogger KTS said...

little late to the game, but also -- sending you and your family my thoughts during this difficult time.

Blogger Just Dawn said...

I had lost touch of you site for about the last month. (sorry)
But saw a picture of you on flickr with mamrosa and thought to re look you up. :)
Then I saw the post about your dad.
I wanted to share this with you:
http://www.justdawn.net/2008/01/17/just-good-bye-to-my-dad/

Glad you are back in my bookmarks!

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